WHEN LOVE IS NOT RECIPROCAL

"Love ought to be a mutual commitment of two and not an investment by one." -O.J.O

Gloom and unhappiness covered her face the way bed-sheet masks naked mattrass. She sat lonely and quietly on a stool placed at the threshold of her family's flat. She was utterly drown in thoughts to the extent that she was oblivion of my presence not even when my phone's busty ringtone defiled the tranquility naturally known with government residential areas (G.R.A).

Her eyeball was completely glued to the blue roof of the sky as I stood in sheer wonderment of her pathetic condition.

"What could be the matter with her? What could warrant her to resume a dejected posture this evening? What could make a charming and decent Lady of her calibre and timber maroon herself in the forest of sadness?" all these and many more presumptous thoughts occupied my mind for a while before I resolved to inquire. This is because Angela and I aren't only mere friends from childhood, but also attends the same University.

On my resolution to interrupt her wandering, I tapped her pensive shoulder. Immediately, she was stunned I did the tap. "Josh, you startled me" she said in a tone pregnant with relief.

On probing what the matter was, she bursted in wails. She told me how the One she loves never gave a damn for her feelings; how her 'two years' effort of trying to get him in a sensational mood had been unproductive; how she calls and texts him every now and then and how she had been consistently persistent at doing the pestering.

As she narrates her sad tale in a melancholic manner, I figured she's a casualty of 'EMOTIONAL ENTRAPMENT'.

"Angela, you need not to hoax a man to cherish you. Anyone that is not cracy about you before marriage would make you go cracy after marriage." I bluntly declared.

Emotional entrapment can be said to be a situation when someone fins it impossible to stop loving the One that doesn't love them. It is a sensational imprisonment kind of situation.

When love is not reciprocal, relationship or courtship becomes a burden on one of the partners who tries everything to make it works.

When love is not reciprocal, a partner loves and does not get the same measure of love from the One he/she loves.

Of note is that the expression of love should be mutually equal in all ramification: be it in calls, texts, visits, gifts among many others.

The responsibility attached to love must not be tilted towards one of the participating duo. It shouldn't be a one-sided thing. after all, affairs is for matured minds.

When two people are in love, they can successfully weather life' storm together. But, when it is lop-sided, you fight alone and could lose alone.

It is better to be alone than to be in an affair where you will be lonely.

...Kip da Optimism Alive