BECOMING A GENDER WITH AN AGENDA!

Hello dear friend! How are you? Hope you’re fine. No sane man wakes up every morning and leaves his residence and family without having an objective in mind; a premeditated destination. A person who is oblivion of his/her true purpose in life is left with no other option than to wander. Enjoy!

“To live for something is to live up to something and vice-versa. A Marketer with no set sales target cannot tell on the long run whether s/he meets a target or not. To exist is not just to feast and gist, but to have and actualize a personal life list. ” –O.J.O

‘Kayode Oyero

                                                                                                                 

There is something interlocking about an action and an intention. Though, dreams are the seedling of reality. But, a deluge of intention without an action is as good as no intent. Likewise, an act without a prior intent or reason can be rightly adjudged to announce a display of mental aberration in rational quarters. You can imagine someone who acts without first thinking!

Truthfully, many of us may have in one way or the other come across a saying that one thousand good intentions is not as good as one action, but, imagine an ironic instance when one thousand actions is not as good as one intention: Imagine someone behind a moving Wheel with no specific direction or destination in mind; an individual or a family organizing a feast with no spectacular event or occurrence calling for such celebration; the recruitment of a Gardener when there’s no sprouting garden or bevy of flowers to prune; a corporate meeting without an agenda…… Simply imagine living a life without a well-spelt self-known purpose!

>>> People who take actions without an organized intention agonize aftermathly! Why? They don’t have charts. To have a chart is to arrive at a destination decided upon in advance!

Planning establishes co-ordinated efforts. It reduces uncertainty and wasteful activities. When you plan the execution of a certain goal, either mentally or in black and white, you minimize the chances of you failing. To be frank dear friend, without a plan, you are not sure of anything, not even yourself. You are prone to the vagaries of full-fledge uncertainties and the attendant thorns of probable failure. When you have a plan, you are as armed as a warrior on a conquest mission. Tell me with utmost sincerity friend, can the attack of a wild beast be averted with mere bare hands? Capital eehn, ooo, NO!

“Aimlessness is a vice, and such drifting must not continue for those who would steer clear of catastrophe and destruction. They who have no central purpose in their life fall an easy prey to petty worries, fears, troubles and self-pitying (Job diversification)…… we should conceive of a legitimate purpose in our hearts and set out to accomplish it… looking neither right nor left,” says a classic inspirational writer, James Allen in his book: As A Man Thinketh.

The word: ‘Why?’ has a deeper significance than the meaning generally attached to it as an ordinary three letter interrogative word; it tends to govern all human actions. For example, we need shelter basically because of protection and privacy. We own cars solely for the purpose of movement and transportation and not necessarily because of ornamental importance. We purchase a commodity having understood the essential or importance of that commodity to ourselves.

Summarily, you’d agree with me that in creative term, we buy after we know the why!  – Right? I can hear your firm Yes from here! Okay, let’s proceed! >>>

>>>You can’t do what you are supposed to do until you discover what you are supposed to do!

Dear friend! Have you ever thought of the reason why some folks change job line or direction of trade like cattle nomads? Why they never stick with any one business line long enough to become a Master in such area of specialization, build up a network of contacts, store of knowledge and professional reputation? The reason is simple. Such individuals lack direction. They are naïve of the power of focus and the law of concentration that maintains that scattered energy is a wasted effort and that to focus on something consistently is to become a Focus. This act of crisscrossing is what is called the trap of confusion. They are experimenting!

Time-wasting is one of the dangerous things in life. Show me a Time-waster and I’d show you a Life-waster. Time is a commodity so ephemeral that it can’t be recaptured once gone. What you’ve lived you can’t relived. So, it’s best to make judicious and fulfilling use of it in a way that will bring great results and personal satisfaction. ‘Why do I exist in the first place?’ is a soul searching question we need to ask ourselves and find a genuine answer to before we exit this world.

“Why precisely am I on earth?”

                 

American Buckminster Fuller, one of the greatest investors and thinkers of the twentieth century in his work, “Generalised principles” of the Universe asserted that honey bees are not in essence purposed to produced honey, they are purposed to cross-pollinate. It’s in this process of cross-pollination that they accidentally gather nectar for honey. For him, animals don’t earn a living. They are just doing what they are supposed to do. And by doing what they are supposed to do, nature and God looks after them.

Dear friend! For each of us, there is something we are supposed to be doing. And if we do that, then God and nature will look after us (just like animals) and money will come screaming for our attention!

“What does it mean to live a purposeful life?”  

      

Living a purposeful life is about enriching other people’s life: adding value to the life of others and not doing it with the cardinal motive of making money. The life of comedians and humorists suffice to this fact. Real successful comedians are accomplished not because they have to do comedy, but because they like and want to do comedy. They derive an inward satisfaction putting smiles on the faces of people. Thus, people reciprocate their welfarist gesture by putting smiles on their faces through compensations. (Nature nurtures them!)

Genuine born comedians and comedienne don’t struggle to get even the most inharmonious-contoured face happy and laughing hysterically. It’s their calling. It’s their passion. They are divinely anointed to do comedy! Just give them the audience of half a minute and they will send your eyes watery with tears of excitement. They feel inexistent and unfulfilling if they don’t exhibit satire! Its part and parcel of their make-up come what may. They make people giddy with excitement out of their volition and not out of a survival instinct or compulsion. They know what they are supposed to do and they do what they are supposed to do. And by so doing, nature and God caters for their welfare. Just like animals!

But, quite sadly, a lot of us are grappling in places below our potentials, struggling with jobs we have no passion for, holding onto jobs in conflict with our recreational interest, all because of survival? We can do better! Inherent natural gift lies latent in us waiting for a productive explosion!

“What’s the way forward?”

>>> Make your passion your profession! 

Dear friend! The first step to living a purposeful life is to do for a living what you will do assuming you are a multi-billionaire with no monetary worry. Imagine not having to wake up before cock-crow to resume an official white or yellow collar duty solely because of salary or accumulated wages. A plush opulent life of all-round comfort, luxury and enablement: nothing to hustle or struggle for. What recreation would you –a creation, - do in such a life in other not to remain dormant? (Thinking?) Make such passion your profession and you’d gain an inward self-satisfaction that you’re living for something and not necessarily working because of something.

Dear friend! If you find yourself frequently doing something and the reason for your doing it is not because of pecuniary gratification. But, because you like yourself while exhibiting such an interest. Then, believe me, that’s your purpose! That’s your uniqueness! Brand yourself in such field. Quit brooding in official status and trades that you dislike in the deepest recesses of your mind but you opt for all because of the quest for survival, social glamour, societal elevation and celebration. A man‘s position and action must flow out of his purpose not the other way round. A real man is someone who is aware of the reality of ‘who he is?’ and who lives in that reality. You are an entity with a divine identity, a God-given talented creature endowed with an area of comparative advantage!

>>>One of the greatest secret to discover our purpose and start fulfilling our potentials is doing what we love and loving what we do.

Dear friend! Do you have a mellifluous voice such that the Hollies of Holies finds it irresistible during special number rendition in Church? Please consider the music ministry. Your business is not only in banking (guessing though) but with the notes. You know only death can separate you from singing, so, don’t you think you should devote your spare part in establishing your label?

Or are you a male with a sugar-coated tongue such that you can convince the stone-hearted of them all? A promising career awaits you in marketing, counseling, law, politics, evangelism, public speaking, public relations or international mediation. Stop wasting your time winning and breaking the hearts of impressionable ladies. Stop fabricating undetectable lies. Harp on your potential. Hone your gift of persuasion. A fulfilling career awaits you in one of these highlighted fields. Draw your life agenda in this direction. It’s what you like doing. You have all it takes to professionalize yourself as an Orator. Be in motion with this vision. Products are designed with the intention of the Producer. You’re to leverage on your gifts to fulfill your purpose!

Only death can terminate the true reason of our existence, not retirement or Job termination letters. Ever-wondered why medical practitioner predicts the life expectancy of persons after retirement to be between three to five years? The reason isn’t far-fetched. It’s because most retired people allow official it-is-over notice to wreck their maximum utilization of productive capacity. Retirement without doing anything for these persons causes speedy depletion of their life. It is called redundancy!

A benefit of making one’s passion, one’s profession is longevity of life and an absence of forced retirement. Lawyers, Judges, Doctors, Writers, Musicians, Instrumentalists and other persons undertaking interest-leaning careers tends to live longer than their man-must-shop counterparts. The longevity of the lives of the Late Chinua Achebe and Gani Fawehinmi, Wole Soyinka, King Sunny Ade, Bill Cosby, Ebenezer Obe is a testament to this fact. They love what they do and do what they love. They derive enjoyment alongside fulfillment with their job. Hence, the issue of retirement is a goner as far as they are concerned.

Why would they even think of retiring from doing what they love when they love what they do? Even at eighty and above, the Late Chinua Achebe wrote a published book: There was a country! Even at eighty something Pa Ebenezer Obe still performs live on stage, tantalizing his audience with melodious rhythms. Even at above Seventy, Bill Cosby still sends his audience laughing intoxicatingly with amusing talks and acts…… Isn’t that amazing?

“Mr Poter! Where’s my pre-Christmas gift?”

Here is it:

>>> Enjoyment + Fulfillment = Purpose. When you make your passion your profession, you’re liable to have mansions with effortless ease. You’ll get paid for enjoying yourself!

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